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Our heartfelt thanks to all you kind people who have shown such compassion.

We are heartbroken but accept that a Higher Power has spoken, and Ellen is in a “Perfect Place.”

(Her words…..)

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  • I watched the video and I saw me there, in Universal Studios, with all of you! What fun we had that day. But, we always had fun with Ellen. She was always up for having fun and enjoying life to the fullest. And, she brought that spirit and that amazing positive energy to everyone she met. I don’t think I ever remember a down time with her. She was always up and always so much fun to be around. She could make anything into an adventure…even going to Whole Foods!

    Even in the pictures her amazing spirit shines through. It shined from her very core and now you can see that in each of you, the 3 girls she was so proud ...  Show the rest »

    of and adored so much. Now she is your angel guiding you from above through life’s journey. And, you are all doing such an incredible job of carrying on and making such a wonderful success of your lives. That would definitely bring that amazing smile to your mom’s face.

    We look forward to seeing you all real soon at the bris and/or at the wedding. You know we are always here for each of you so don’t hesitate to call. Sending loads of love and very special hugs to you.

  • Martha Gurwitz says:

    I watched the video and I saw me, with all of you, at Universal Studios! I am, especially now, so happy I went with you. We had such an amazing time. But, we always had such an incredible time with Ellen whatever we did. She was always up for having fun and enjoying life. She could even make going to Whole Foods an adventure!

    And, with her absolutely wonderful smile she always brought such uplifting and positive energy to everyone
    who came in contact with her. And, you 3 girls were the joy of her life. With an incredible marriage to Alan, 3
    beautiful girls who she absolutely adored, a great life….she had it made. She left all of us way ...  Show the rest »

    to soon.

    Now you have an angel looking after you and helping to guide you through life’s journey. And, you are doing that so incredibly well. Ellen would be filled with so much joy to see you now. And, she is. Just from a different place.

    We all send loads of love to you. You know we are always here for you. And, we’ll see you real soon.

  • Tamara Busch says:

    Alan, Danielle, Julia and Alexa – so shocked to understand the circumstances around Ellen’s passing. Over the years, at all the tech events, it was always a pleasure to catch up, discuss industry changes and to update each other on our kids. Ellen truly was an interesting and interested person. May her memories be a blessing – her smile and joy were a delight.
    Peace, Tamara Busch

  • April Buchwald says:

    I met and knew Ellen at Westchester Parent Magazine where we both worked. Ellen’s love of life and enthusiasm was infectious, as was her dedication to her several business careers, and especially her love of family whom she spoke of often. I admired her and was honored to have known her for the time we worked together. I will forever remember Ellen as the most positive, happy, efficient, and exciting personality I have ever known. May she rest in peace in that “perfect place”. My prayers to Alan, Alexa, Julia, Danielle and the extended Brody family for healing and strength. You were all truly blessed to have had Ellen in your lives. God Bless you all. April Cordes Buchwald

  • April Buchwald says:

    I met and knew Ellen at Westchester Parent Magazine where we both worked. Ellen’s love of life and enthusiasm was infectious, as was her dedication to her several business careers, and especially her love of family whom she spoke of often. I admired her and was honored to have known her for the time we worked together. I will forever remember Ellen as the most positive, happy, efficient, and exciting personality I have ever known. May she rest in peace in that “perfect place”. My prayers to Alan, Alexa, Julia, Danielle and the extended Brody family for healing and strength. You were all truly blessed to have had Ellen in your lives. God Bless you all.

  • DNA Askew says:

    Dear Alan,

    I was shocked and so deeply saddened by the untimely death of Mrs. Ellen Schaeffer Brody, but I take comfort in the knowledge that our world is a far better place because she was a part of it.

    She touched so many lives, and her death was a surprise, her life here may have ended, but her soul will never die and now heaven’s latest Angel finally gets to Fly.

    My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family, and with all of us who loved her.

    With Deepest Sympathy,
    DNA Askew
    The DNA Organization

  • Darcy Gerbarg says:

    I am so very sorry of hear of your loss. What a shock! I remember the many times Ellen welcomed me to your events.
    Please accept my heartfelt condolences.

  • Umit says:

    Never met Ellen or know anything about her work but from what I have heart about her so far it seems like she was truly a loved person who also was a beacon of inspiriation to many. Sending my condolences to rest of Brody family. R.I.P.

  • Joseph Cruz says:

    Dear Allan and Family,

    I am deeply sadden to hear the news of your loss. Please accept my deepest condolences. I will keep you and your family in my prayers.


  • James Lei says:

    Dear Alan,

    I was so sorry to hear about this tragedy. I have not met Ellen before. But her beautiful eyes were shining kindness and warmth. May you and your family get stronger and pass through these difficult times.

  • Larry Magid says:

    Alan and family,

    I’m so sorry to hear this news (just got an email invite to the memorial but we’re in California). It’s been many years but I remember Ellen when Patti and I visited your home. Nothing more to say other than that this is indeed very tragic news.

  • Dear Alan,

    Another name that shares all the heartfelt feelings expressed on this Forum. Nothing I could add to this community of saddened folks

    Kindest regards,

    Alan Weinberger

  • Amy Neustein, Ph.D. says:

    Hi Alan,

    I am shocked and deeply saddened to hear about Ellen. I hadn’t put the name together in my mind when I read of the deadly Metro accident last month. I want you to know I really loved Ellen! The last time I saw her which was about two years ago she sat down with me on a bench outside the conference room and proudly told me about the children. She exuded so much enthusiasm and warmth and was so funny! I had first met Ellen in July of 2001. At the time my heart was heavy because my mother was in the ICU at Lenox Hill and there was no sign of recovery. I remember talking to Ellen about thyroid ...  Show the rest »

    problems and vegetables known as goitrogenic, meaning they are bad for the goiter gland. Ellen burst out laughing and said “What about Jewish vegetables?” making a play on the word “goy”trogenic! For that one moment I felt the stone on my chest lift and was so carried away by her infectious humor and beautiful laugh that I let go of the pain about losing my mother’s fatal condition. I saw then that God sends people into our lives, sometimes for a moment and sometimes for a lifetime, to lift us from despair. Ellen had a truly healing soul! I saw that back in 2001 and every time I’d run into her I felt her amazing aura of warmth and comfort around me. I am so very, very sorry about your loss and I cannot even fathom how your daughters must feel. What a beautiful, cheerful spirit! I know she will be with us always!

    Please take good care of yourself and know that you are cared for and respected and admired by so many people!!


  • Christie, Caroline says:

    Hi Alan
    I was so sorry to hear abut the tragedy on the loss of your wife.
    I have only wonderful memories of the braais and other events you arranged for us South Africans.
    I lit a candle for you and your family and will light another in her memory.It is hard to find a reason for such a loss
    Thanks you for everything you have done for the South African community here in New York and may you and your family receive the strength you need to get through this difficult period.
    Caroline Christie

  • Christie, Caroline says:

    Alan and family
    What a sad time for everyone. You and Ellen did so much for the South African community and we will always appreciate it. It must be hard to find a reason for this very sad loss of a wonderful wife and mother. I am thinking of you all and praying for you. All I can say for sure is that she is in a better place but that is no comfort to those left on earth. May God give you all the strength you need to get through this difficult time. Thank you for all you have done for all of us South Africans in the USA.

  • murray gordon says:

    Dear Alan, and family:

    Alison and I were deeply shocked and saddened to hear about Ellen yesterday.

    What a shock!

    Ellen was the loveliest person. She was always bubbly and smiling, always warm and giving, always a ray of light. She was such a great, warm maternal being — I remember her with the babies from the time they were infants. She even gave me nice motherly advice from time to time 🙂

    Let us know if there’s anything we can do for you and the family in this difficult time.

    Best love to your daughters and you at this difficult time.

    Murray and Alison

  • Lois Drapin says:

    Alan, I did not realize this. My heart is broken for you and your family. Much love to you all.
    Lois Drapin

  • Delia Black says:

    Dear Alan, Danielle, Julia, Alexa, I miss your wife and mother so much my heart hurts. She was my best friend for 30 years. There was a period of time that we did not stay in touch because distance, daily life got in the way but, when we re-united it was like we were never apart. Ellen was like a sister to me, a friend I could share everything with and she never criticized me nor made me feel she was waving her finger at me even when she may have not agreed with my decisions in life. I was looking through pictures of us throughout the years and one thing struck me most is that ...  Show the rest »

    in many of them she is either holding my hand or has her arm wrapped around mine. Our friendship was warm and strong; I think we both felt that way but never said it to each other in so many words. In retrospect I think we showed it to each other in the little things we did for each other. The simple things that made us feel happier, loved, and appreciated. Ellen has taught me that it’s the simple things in life that matter most. Ellen taught me that you need to be happy with yourself to be happy with others. Ellen taught me that when you have something important to say to someone you need to pick-up the phone or go see that person and tell them because she said to me you need to see their facial expression, body language and hear their voice it speaks louder than words. It brings me comfort to know I have a good friend that will greet me when I enter heaven. Ellen will be there for all of us, we will be re-united with her again. love always, Deelz

  • Copied from FB:
    Alan, I was so sad to hear today of your great loss. I stayed over one night at your house and Ellen was a gracious host. I remember her as a happy and enthusiastic person, very busy with you and the children and still making time for apple pies using apples from your backyard tree. Please accept my condolences.

  • Chike says:

    I may not have met Ellen personally but her kindness radiates. I empathize with you and your daughters and pray that you will continually find comfort in this difficult times.

  • Paul Hollett says:

    Alan & Family
    So sorry to hear of Ellen’s passing. She was a warm and giving soul and a pioneering spirit in this digital age. I remember HollyWeb and much more in the early days … Ellen will be missed. Have been losing too many old friends and colleagues lately … My thoughts are with you.

  • Dan Conley says:

    Alan Brody: I intend to support your passionate effort to fix train crossings throughout America. I’m sorry for your loss. Dan Conley

  • Howard Sobel says:

    I never met Ellen. They say the eyes are the windows to the soul. Ellen’s smile is a window to her heart. May God bless her and keep her close to him and grant peace to your family and may her memories blossom in your heart always.

  • Andrea Adler says:

    Ellen was a force of nature. Her powerful, loving spirit will be missed on the planet. Her tenacious desire for truth and compassion for people will be forever imprinted in those who knew her. As for me, Ellen was Durga incarnate, the Goddess of Victory of Good over Evil in the Hindu tradition. She could never stand injustice. And even though you didn’t see her walk around with a sword, it was clasped invisibly in the palm of her hand.

    Ellen, may your next journey be even more magnificent than the impression you left in this one.

    Alan, Ellen has left you with TONS of love and TONS of support to last you several lifetimes. INHALE it!

  • Amy Neustein says:

    Hi Alan
    I just tried to send a message but it may not have gone through. So please pardon me of this is a repeat?
    I remember Ellen for her wonderful sense of humor! She made a quip back in 2001 when I first met her and it came at a time that I needed the elixir of humor. I saw Ellen two years ago at one of your events and she showed me photos of the family. She was beaming with pride when talking about the children! May her spirit continue to shine on us and give us hope. What a wonderful woman who will be missed by all those blessed to know her!
    Amy Neustein

  • Amy Neustein says:

    Hi Alan
    I sent you a personal email earlier today but I wanted to do a post as well. I remember Ellen with so much warmth and tenderness. In fact in how many emails to you over the years did I close with my warm regards to Ellen? The reason is that Ellen had such a magnetic personality! I recall first meeting her in July of 2001 when she made a quip that lightened my heart so much and right at a time that I so much needed the elixir of humor. When I would see her over the years we’d always embrace. The last time I saw Ellen she sat down and showed me photos of your children. She was ...  Show the rest »

    beaming with pride, having just returned from a family trip. Her love for her family and her compassion for others was unmistakable! I am fortunate to have known her. May her spirit continue to shine light on all of us. I will be at the memorial for Ellen for sure! Alan, you are not alone!
    Amy Neustein

  • Philippe Burke says:

    Deepest condolences to you and your girls, Alan, I can only imagine the loss you are feeling. You are in my prayers. Philippe

  • John Weidner says:


    You and your daughters have been in my thoughts and prayers ever since I heard about the passing of Ellen. I had occasion to meet and speak with her at a couple of events. Just a wonderful person.

    Wishing you the peace that I believe your faith will provide you.


  • We’ll always have HollyWeb 1.0 … farewell, and thanks for everything!

  • Steven Steinberg says:

    Alan –

    You possibly may remember me from various digital-related conferences at Javits and elsewhere – I produce the sci/tech/related TV series “DAZZLE UNLIMITED” [tm] (TWCNYC Ch. 79 & 1081), and we last chatted probably a few years ago at one such event, probably in the Press or Speakers’ area. Amazing how time does fly. I’m sad to now hear that Ellen has passed on, and so, while I’m unable to attend the memorial service, I herewith extend my condolences and best wishes to you and your family. And I’m also heartened to see that even in what must be a hard time, you’ve chosen to celebrate the positive in her spirit (and perhaps TO her spirit), which I think is a ...  Show the rest »

    wonderful and sensitive thing to do — and my guess too is that it is appreciated.

    — Best,
    Steven Steinberg
    13 March 2014

  • Tan Lu says:

    Alan, words cannot express how saddened I am to hear about this tragedy. As you and your daughters put so eloquently in the eulogy Ellen left a mark on this world; she is in a perfect place and lives on in this world through you and your daughters. I wish you and your family peace and nothing but good fortune in the future.

  • Only spoke to her briefly on a couple of occasions, but was impressed with her kindness and warmth.
    Please accept my condolences.


  • Joe Pucci says:

    Alan, I’m shocked and so saddened to hear the news that Ellen is no longer with us. My sympathies and thoughts are with you and your family as you deal with the loss and celebrate her life well lived. All the best, Joe Pucci

  • Miriam Eaves says:

    Dear Alan,
    You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. Wishing you peace and strength.

    All the best,

    Miriam Eaves

  • John Marino says:

    Alan and Family…

    I was so sorry to hear about your loss. I fondly remember the early days of digital media when you and Ellen worked with us at the NAB Show. I think we called it HollyWeb! Those were fun times — being pioneers during the early and formative days of the Web. May we all remember the excitement and the joys to keep Ellen’s spirit alive!


  • david beatty says:

    Alan, I am so sorry to hear about your Ellen. I will be thinking of you all on the 26th.

  • Peter Accumanno says:

    May she rest in peace.

  • Linda Gelman says:

    My dear Julia,

    I was so sad to hear about your mom, Dan called me. If I had been in town, I would have been at the funeral today. I’ve heard so much about her, her amazing generosity, her exuberance for life, her love for people, especially her family. And I her about her from you. I am so sorry. Paul and I will be up to see you this week.

    With love and sympathy,


  • Cathi Maida says:

    You are all in our thoughts and prayers. Ellen is still with you all!!…. Cathi Maida and daughter Jessi

  • Jaime Sguerra says:

    To the Brody Family:
    It’s been a long time since our families have crossed paths. Regardless, the effects of last week’s tragedy have resonated throughout the whole community and specially through us, and it’s only fitting that we join the chorus of people sharing the memories of joy and love that Ellen has left with us.

    The first time we crossed paths goes all the way back to when Andre and Danielle started Kindergarten together. Ellen was impossible to miss, as the mother of a five-year-old about to start school, a three-year-old to keep track of all day, and a third child still on the way. If ever there were an example of a super-mom, Ellen was it.

    The following years brought ...  Show the rest »

    us together with Julia and Carolina’s soccer games, and Ellen never failed to make us feel right at home. It was remarkable, really. Ellen was always there to check-in and see how everyone was, make everyone feel like they were among friends, and share her brilliant smile – yet another one of her super-powers.

    Friday’s service was heart-breaking and heart-warming all at once. The amount of love Ellen left in the lives of everyone she reached is incredible, and the space she left in everyone’s life can never truly be filled. To say she will be missed is a gross understatement. Still, it was beautiful to see how much of her presence remains, and especially in her daughters. Each one carries so many of the special qualities she embodied – her infectious smile, her brilliance, and of course, that special spark (her charisma). There is an endless number of ways to describe how lovely she’s been to everyone around her. Right now these stories are the closest thing we have to the very light she brought into our lives, and for that reason we want to help continue to tell her stories.

    We wish you all the best in the years to come, and we hope that when our paths cross again in the future, we’ll have even happier stories to share.


    The Sguerra-Lombo Family

  • JOHN NADLER says:

    Dear Alan, Danielle, Julia and Alexa,

    Please accept our deepest sympathies and most heartfelt condolences of the tragic and sudden loss
    of Ellen, your dear wife and mother. Although we never met Ellen at ICD Jewelry, her loss tears at all of our hearts.

    Our middle son, Michael, since the 8th grade, been dating Hannah Bologna, University of Delaware junior, and sorority sister of Julia. Hannah and Julia were also sleep-away summer camp friends while in high school. Hannah, who is like family to us, visited our home, immediately after attending the funeral.

    There really are no other words for us to offer, except, may Ellen, Rest in Peace, in Heaven, close with God, and that may God hold you all close to Him, to share His love for you and for each other.

    Maria,John, Matthew, Michael, and Stephen Nadler
    Chappaqua, New York

  • Elaine Frysh says:

    Hi Danielle,

    Once again I would just like to wish you, your dad and sisters Long Life. I cannot begin to know how you are feeling right now. Our condolences to you at this tragic time. We send you our very best wishes. I hope you find some comfort in the warmth of your family and friends that are all around you now.

    I am so glad we had the time to get to know you and Julia, you were so delightful to have around and to chat to. (even if you dashed off on Shabbat!!) You were both so full of life and the joys of your trip. We got to share in some of your excitement. Please keep in touch and let us know how our “room mates ” are doing.

    Take care. Fondest love,


  • Michael Dabbene says:

    And Love is with you

    One night I dreamed I was walking along the beach with the Lord.
    Many scenes from my life flashed across the sky.
    In each scene I noticed footprints in the sand.
    Sometimes there were two sets of footprints,
    other times there were one set of footprints.

    This bothered me because I noticed
    that during the low periods of my life,
    when I was suffering from
    anguish, sorrow or defeat,
    I could see only one set of footprints.

    So I said to the Lord,
    “You promised me Lord,
    that if I followed you,
    you would walk with me always.

    But I have noticed that during
    the most trying periods of my life
    there have only been one
    set of footprints in the sand.

    Why, when I needed you most,
    you have not been there for me?”
    The Lord replied,
    “The times when you have
    seen only one set of footprints,
    is when I carried you.”

    Prayers are with you.

  • Ashley Sederoff says:

    Dear Danielle, Julia and Alexa,

    I wanted to reach out and let you know that I have been thinking of you all so much. Lauren and I have spoken a number of times and she has gone on and on about how incredible the three of you are, how beautiful you all spoke about your mom at the funeral and how supportive you have been with each other. I can’t say I’m at all surprised….I remember watching each of you grow up at Walden and always thought there was something uniquely special about the Brody sisters. Your mom was an incredible lady and probably one of the moms I spoke to the most 🙂 because of how much she always ...  Show the rest »

    looked out for you and loved talking about each of you individually. I wish I lived closer so I could have come to the funeral or stop by and give you a hug. I know you have so many people reaching out but please know that I am another person who is always here for you if you need anything or if I could ever be of help.

    Thinking of you from Toronto and sending so much love and support from Lorne, Jake, Rory and myself.
    With love and hugs, Ashley xo

  • Marc Sherer says:

    Thank you for inviting me to be part of the service Friday. It was overwhelmingly emotional and stunningly beautiful.
    I believe it was felt beyond the temple. And so, all should be proud of the tributes and expressions of love for Ellen….somewhere proud as she must always have been of her family.
    Your friend,

  • Leanne Arnow says:

    I’ve been trying to think of a memory to share, but I haven’t been able to think of one that’s story-worthy. As I’ve searched through my memory and house, I’ve found some momentos—one was a letter I wrote from camp. I must have been 10, still at day camp but trying a weekend at a sleepaway camp for the first time. Of course, the thing you do at camp is write home, so I wrote a letter to Ellen, Alan and Danielle (who must’ve been a baby). There was really nothing interesting in the letter… camp was fun, it rained, we ate food and did activities. Nothing story worthy.

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    came over to our house when I was a kid, and how they’d never leave until we pretty much had to kick them out at 11:30 at night. And about the times when I’d babysit pre-schooler Danielle and baby Julia when I was about 13 and Ellen told me that everything would be fine as long as I didn’t let Julia escape from the playpen.

    I looked through photos and found one of Ellen holding my daughter Haley just over a year ago, on the day she was born. Again, I don’t really remember anything particularly funny or “Ellen-esque” happening, besides the fact that the Brody clan showed up excited and bubbly without any notice, and probably after visiting hours were over. But still not story worthy.

    The thing about Ellen is that she was always part of the stories, and she might’ve even been fueling them, but she wasn’t necessarily the focus. My memories are more about things we did together or celebrated together. She was a constant presence and support in my life from when I met her and Alan when I was 9 until now.

    Even with Ellen’s very strong presence, she had a way of keeping it about you. She might’ve been loud and energetic, but she used that energy to get other people to open up. It was a true gift that she had.

    So I gave up on finding a memory about Ellen and just started reminiscing. I looked through photos from my wedding and found one of Joel and I walking down the aisle. Ellen is standing in the background, beaming with a proud smile. And I remembered that Ellen signed my Ketubah. For those of you who don’t know, a Ketubah is a Jewish wedding contract. At one point it actually was a legal document, but for me and Joel and a lot of modern, reform Jews, it’s symbolic, kind of like writing down your vows.

    I wanted ours to be really special, and very meaningful. Joel and I went to the paper store and picked the perfect piece of papyrus and some kind of dried fruit to sew on at the corners. We put a lot of thought into what we would write, and edited it a million times. We spent and arm and a leg having a calligrapher hand write and sew the whole thing. But the one piece that required no forethought was who should sign it as a witness. Of course it was going to be Ellen.

    Ellen has been there supporting me for the past 22 years. She never let too much time go by without checking in and updating me on what she, the girls, and Alan have been up to. She would always call, text or e-mail when any of the girls had a graduation or birthday or visit home, or occasionally to send a comic or warn me that 9 volt batteries can cause a fire when improperly disposed of. Even when I went to college and then lived in the city for 8 years, we kept in close touch, completely because of her effort.

    I moved back to Westchester with Joel and with Haley on the way just over a year ago and was so excited to be living near family again. I thought: Danielle, Julia, and Alexa would finally pay me back for all the babysitting I did for them when they were little, and we’d hang out with the whole Brody family regularly. Ellen made sure that that happened over the past year and those memories are now invaluable.

    Even though Ellen won’t be there to watch Haley grow up, seeing her signature on my ketubah reminds me that she’ll always be with me, backing me and Joel up and sharing in all of the adventures we have together.

  • Josh says:


    I am so sorry to hear about your mother. I have no words. Peace and strength to you, your sisters, father and family.


  • Kathryn Dreghorn Linden says:

    Hi Danielle,

    I’m Katie Linden and I was a client of your mom’s. Your cousin Leanne (spell?) gave me your email as I understand you wanted some information I had.

    Your mom has been coming to my house in Bronxville for the past six months or so to help me with my business. I know that words can’t express the depth of my sympathies for you and your family. Ellen was such a friendly, open, kind, smart and giving person. Truly a bright light in this world. I looked forward to our time together and she made me a better person- and biz owner!

    She would often talk to me about her children. Especially because I went ...  Show the rest »

    to the University of Delaware as I know you did and your sister does. She also spoke to me about the birthright trip and how proud she was of her kids. And I was always struck with a sense of what a great and cool mom she must be and have been.

    We would have a lot of open discussions about many topics while we were both working. So I told her how I have a spiritual coach (for lack of a better term) who helps me. And the first way she helped me was clearing my house from some weird occurrences. We had smoke detectors that would go off in the middle of the night almost every night (along with other odd things) and after electricians and a lot of other people came and nothing could be figured out or fixed, I called her.

    I had the first phone session with Victoria (she lives in ca) and she found out what was going on energetically in the house (and spiritually) and she definitely solved the problem! I’ve continued to do work with her for my own development personally and in my business. She’s a very gifted, knowledgeable and kind woman. I lost my father almost two years ago and she really helped me with the grief and feeling connected to him, on a soul level. (Hope this all isn’t too weird to share with you!)

    So your cousin told me to pass along her information and I am happy to. She may be able to help you in more ways at this time too. If you ever want to talk I would be happy to tell you more.

    Again, my deepest sympathies. I will keep your mom and all of you in my thoughts, meditations and prayers.

    Katie Linden

  • Ellen Sandles says:


    I was so sorry not to see Ellen and you at your latest event due to ongoing
    issues with my mother’s health, but I was even more saddened to be at
    Ellen’s funeral yesterday.

    I will always remember Ellen’s warmth at the events, her chasing me around
    the room to fill out the voting sheet, our chit-chats about your daughters,
    who she clearly adored — and, the peanut-butter stuffed pretzels.

    After Mike and I were stuffing our faces with those pretzels one night that
    Ellen had set out on the snack table, I asked her about where she bought
    them and got the entire “run down” on how she found them, where to buy them,
    what they cost, etc. Peanut-butter stuffed pretzels are now a staple in my
    kitchen and I think of Ellen warmly as I munch on them.

    Words cannot express my sorrow for your family’s loss,

    –Ellen Sandles

  • Mary l. Moller says:

    First of all, my deepest condolences on the loss of your wonderful Mother. And the memories you have must be awesome.

    I have some thoughts to add, which may give you comfort :

    ‘Remember God’s promise and remember it well, for only through death can one live forever.’ She is with God now.

    Another poem I have, which I have to locate, begins with ‘God wanted her now….’ When I find it, I will send it to you.

    I was a MetroNorth commuter for more than 30 years, on the Hudson line, but there were occasions when I took that
    Chappaqua express train to visit my doctor who knew your Mother well from the Jewelry store.

    Mary L. Moller,Ph.D.
    Briarcliff Manor, NY

  • Lauren Pine Bernstein says:

    Dear Danielle, Julia and Alexa,
    Wow – this morning was something else…
    Not only was it a spectacular tribute to a truly exceptional woman, who could light up the whole world, but also it was an acknowledgment of the extraordinary family that she and your dad so carefully and happily created together.

    I hung on every word that was shared this morning, shaking my head up and down in agreement of all of the amazing things said about your mom and I sat and listened so closely to all of the stories shared that would allow me to know her even better. It was the most special service I have ever attended and the room was packed full with so much ...  Show the rest »

    love there surrounding all of you.

    Your dad spoke so eloquently capturing the love that he and your mom shared. You are so fortunate to have grown up with parents that are soul-mates – so rare and quite extraordinary.

    Watching the three of you today was honestly UNBELIEVABLE!!!! The way you love each other and take care of each other is beautiful beyond belief. You each are so incredibly poised and hearing you each speak and sharing the laughter and the tears was quite remarkable. I was so proud of each of you and so honored to be there to celebrate your mom and the amazing family that she built.

    Mark and I want to send you so so so much love from all of us at Walden.
    We have a great big bench of superstar people, campers, counselors, parents and people like me, Ashley, Ange, Robyn and Katelyn that want to help you. There will be times that somehow feel ok and there will be times that wont feel ok… I just want to let you know that we will always be there for all of you.

    I will see you all soon but just wanted to tell all three of you that you are exceptional and so beautiful – inside and out!
    The apple did not fall far at all 🙂

    Xoxo from all of us at Walden,

  • Gene Robins says:

    To Alan,

    My wife and I remember the Brais you and Ellen held in Ridge Park. They were wonderful events and we never tire of speaking about them and look back at them and smile.

    We are so sorry and wish you and your beautiful family peace.

    Gene Robins

  • Karen Wasserman says:

    Hi Alan, Danielle, Julia and Lexi,

    You all spoke so beautifully and eloquently about your beloved mom and wife and best friend. I feel so blessed to have known all of you so intimately through the lens of Ellen’s love and the pride she held for all of you. I celebrated all of your achievements, joys and hardships through the years, via phone and emails for many years, as a cheerleader on the sideline. Alan, I am so glad that we spent an evening together in December and I am reliving all of the moments of that night in my mind. Who but Ellen would travel from the city to Queens by train, and then hop into a ...  Show the rest »

    taxi, just for dinner with old friends? That was Ellen – LN, my acronym for her – she was truly full of energy, game for so much. Girls, I have a list of questions about your experiences compiled in my mind, questions that of course Ellen would have embellished upon during our next conversation. Our last email exchange was on January 8th, and Ellen shared tiny insights about your Birthright experience. I wanted to hear more and expected to follow up, fully expecting to have the luxury of time on our side. Who knew that time was to be snuffed out so quickly, so unjustly. And Lexi, FYI, the substance of the email was the interview you conducted about the missing student from your school. You were mature and forthright, so very well-spoken.

    It is my heartfelt hope that we will always remain connected, but let’s figure that out later. I had planned on compiling a list of memories of Ellen, having known her since 1983. This is the first of my many memories that I had planned to share with you…

    Ellen spent all four years at SUNY Albany, and I transferred to Albany my sophomore year. We were randomly paired as roommates, lived compatibly well and laughed together a lot, although we didn’t always go out to the bars and parties together. She was a psych. major and I was an english major, and she always noted that she had to schlep big, heavy, textbooks around to study from, as I laid in my bed reading novels and plays, falling asleep, having to re-read what I slept through. Ellen had ‘unusual’ study habits, and would often remain in the carrolls of the school library or Union building, studying till 5AM or so… she was a night owl back then.

    Ellen first started wearing contact lenses in her sophomore year of college. It took her time to adjust to the practice of using them, and at odd times she would practice putting them in and taking them out of her eyes. It always freaked me out and that always launched a full discussion, no detail left unattended, that was Ellen! That semester she had early morning classes, and I guess my schedule allowed me to sleep in a bit. Ellen would wake up around 6:30AM, shower, and then apply her moisturizers. Then she would go to put in her contact lenses, forgetting that the hand moisturizer would leave chemical residue which would sting her eyes. So she would put in her lenses, and instantly feel the sting, and react accordingly, with cries of “ow, ow, ow!” which always jarred me out of my deep sleep, and then prompted me to kvetch at her to put her lenses in before the hand cream! It took her a few weeks to develop a new routine to avoid this painful start to her day. Funny how a small event would remain with me so vividly. It probably seems insignificant all these years later, but these kind of small and habitual moments formed the basis for so much teasing and verbal exchanges that come along with the intimacy of roommates.

    The first year we lived together was in a suite in a low rise building on Indian Quad. The suite was an unlikely pairing of girls: Ellen and I from ‘downstate NY’, a ‘hick’ friend of Ellen’s from freshman year Cindy and her roommate Toni who were both from some very small, town in upstate NY and had western NY accents, and and Hispanic girl named Grace, from one of the boroughs of NY. I don’t recall too much of the day-to-day living that we encountered but I do recall feeling unsettled about how very different the other girls were, and how my social expectations didn’t match up to the reality of these girls profiles. I believe that Ellen was more tolerant and open minded about the differences between us and didn’t allow these difference to alter her moods. She was almost always cheery and chatty.

    One other memory that I want to share is that Ellen and I always laughed about how we would be on campus and people would confuse our faces and names, calling Ellen “Karen” and calling me “Ellen.” I think you’ve heard that many times, I know we still laughed about it.

    And by the way, Alan, Michael and I also danced to ‘Ribbon In The Sky’ at our wedding. I think you had just met Ellen at that time, November 1989, and we met you shortly after that. The rest of your beautiful friendship, and boundless love, is, as they say, history.

    Looking forward to sharing more Ellen memories.

    Stay strong, all of you, it’s a ‘new normal’ that you face.

    With love and friendship,
    Karen Kam Wasserman

  • Nadia Neophytou says:

    Hello Alan, this is Nadia Neophytou here.

    I wanted to offer you my condolences on the passing of your wife.
    I’m a journalist from Joburg based in NY and have been told nothing but wonderful things about the role she played in the events you hosted.

    I am writing about how you and Ellen played active parts in the communities – both local and South African – for the Sunday Times. I know this is a terrible time for you right now, and I would understand if you’re not willing, but I wanted to ask if you would be willing to share how you met. As I said, if not, I understand. Thank you.

    Wishing you strength at this time,

  • Sharon and Georgia Katz says:

    I just wanted to share with you that on Tuesday afternoon, my 14 year old daughter and I stopped into ICD and spent about 30 minutes hanging out and chatting with your lovely, warm mother. She was telling us stories about you girls with such pride and love, it was really beautiful. She was so kind to my daughter, offering her jelly beans and truly paying attention to her, I can only imagine how amazing she was with you girls.

    Our thoughts and prayers are with all of you and hope that you keep all of your wonderful memories of her alive.

  • Danielle Gold says:

    I never had the pleasure of meeting your beautiful mother. From everything I’ve read she seemed like such a wonderful person. I just want to offer all of you my deepest sympathies and condolences. Hugs and lots of prayers to get you through this most difficult time. RIP Ellen Brody.

  • Don Timpanaro says:

    My wife was on the first train car. This tradegy and your funeral service has touched our lives forever. Sorry for your loss

  • Sharon Swados says:

    I was on the 5:44. Please tell the Brody family I am so sorry for their loss. Mrs. Brody found herself in an unforgiving circumstance that required her to assess it in less than 40 seconds. She should never have found herself in this situation. If and when a time arises that her family and her community of faith want to challenge the State, our governor, and Metro-North on why such dangerous grade crossings are allowed and why our trains are not equipped with the latest technology to cut power to the third rail when an object is on the tracks, I will stand with them. I believe Congressman Murphy says there is unfunded legislation to upgrade NY grade crossings. I ...  Show the rest »

    understand NYS has more of them than any other state. I believe this is because of neglect. If we accept Governor Cuomo’s comments this tragedy likely is due to “human error,” then we are done as a civilized society. Mrs. Brody died. Others died. I could have died. For now, I want to express my deep sorrow to the Brody family.

    Sharon Swados

  • Catherine M Conrad says:

    Dear Julia,

    Yesterday we heard from your family’s friend, Phillis, about the loss of your mother. On behalf of the College of Arts & Sciences, please accept our heartfelt condolences. Please know that we are here to support and assist you.
    We will plan to reach out to you again in the near future.

    Please accept our most sincere condolences during this most difficult time.

    Catherine Conrad
    University of Delaware
    College of Arts & Sciences
    Undergraduate Academic Services

  • Avi Katzman says:


    I am so deeply sorry for your loss. I am sending you love. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
    If you need anything I am here.

    Avigail Katzman
    Farm Director

  • Hilary Meir says:

    My dear Alan and my dear adorable girls,

    I have no words to express the depth of the shock, pain and sadness I feel at the terrible tragedy that has befallen your lovely family.

    I am totally with you in spirit and only wish I could be there to give you the warmth and caring I feel for you. I am trying to convey it from this huge distance for I think that Ellen, your beloved wife and mother, was one of the loveliest people I ever met .. a ray of sunshine and more !

    I pray for you to be given the strength to endure this enormous loss, and I wish you all Long Life ~ and may you know no further sorrow !!!

    Much love,